Midlife is not a time to fade out
I help women over 45 stop putting themselves last, make steadier decisions and clear out the patterns holding them back. Whether you are navigating a massive life shift or aiming for a new personal stage, I help you become clearer and more fully yourself."
I'm a Performance Behaviour Specialist.
I bring together behavioural science, my professional skills and varied lived experiences—from fighting fires to stepping onto elite athletic stages—to help you recognise what is keeping you stuck so you can command the life you know you want!"
Midlife is not a time to fade out
It is a time to become clearer, stronger and more fully yourself.
I help women over 45 stop putting themselves last, make steadier decisions and build lives that feel more honest and
fully their own.
Many of the women I work with are capable and holding a lot together on the outside. But underneath, they are tired. Tired of carrying too much. Tired of second-guessing themselves. Tired of saying yes when they mean no.
My work helps women recognise those patterns and understand what is keeping them stuck. With me they begin making steady, practical changes that build real self-belief over time.
Professional Background
I am a Board Certified Behaviour Analyst (BCBA) and a former practising psychologist. I have spent more than 20 years working across teaching, education, behaviour analysis and training. Alongside my clinical work, I’ve served on the frontline as a volunteer firefighter—an experience that taught me a lot about how people react under extreme pressure.That background gives me a deep, data-driven understanding of human behaviour, the patterns people fall into and what real change takes.
My coaching is grounded in behavioural science, psychological insight and practical support. I help women understand not just what they are doing, but why they keep doing it—and how to shift the habit.
Why this Work Matters to Me
This work is personal as well as professional.
I know what it is to move through difficult seasons, reinvention and the slow work of rebuilding. I have lived through an eating disorder, career collapse, and significant personal setbacks. Those experiences shaped me deeply, and they strengthened my commitment to living with more honesty, courage, and self-respect.
I know what it means to start again.
I know what it means to question yourself.
And I know what it takes to rebuild trust in your own voice.
That lived experience is part of what I bring to my coaching.
Change is rarely about simply trying harder.
More often, it begins with telling the truth, seeing the pattern, and choosing one steadier next step.
Embodied Self Respect.
At 51, I began competing as a fitness athlete. What started as a personal challenge became something much deeper: a lived expression of the same values I now help women build in their own lives—self-respect, discipline, courage, consistency and long-term self-leadership. At 61, that part of my life culminated in becoming New Zealand’s oldest INBA Pro Sports Model. I don't share that as pressure to look a certain way. I share it as living data—proof of what becomes possible when a woman refuses to abandon herself and decides that her best chapter is still ahead.
How I Help
I work with women who are ready to stop living on autopilot and start making more honest, grounded choices. Together, we work on patterns such as people-pleasing, guilt, indecision, over-functioning, and loss of self-trust. My approach is calm, clear and practical. I help women slow things down enough to stop treating every daily demand like a third-alarm fire, reconnect with what matters and take steady, meaningful steps that create real change.
My Approach
I believe real change happens when insight and action come together.
That means I do not just offer encouragement. I help women understand the patterns they are in, recognise the emotional cost of those patterns, and begin making practical decisions that align more closely with who they are and what they need.
Confidence is not built through pressure. It is built through small acts of honesty, follow-through, and learning to back yourself over time.
If You Are Here
If you are feeling stretched, resentful, unclear, or disconnected from yourself…
If you are tired of carrying too much, questioning yourself, or living around everyone else’s expectations…
There is another way forward.
You do not need to become a different person.
You need to come back to yourself — steadily, honestly, and with support.
I would love to help you do that.